Who Are You?

Had my first lunch date.  I'm not sure it was truly a date but I'm calling it that (he did bring me flowers).  It was my first date in over 33 years.  I went into it with very few expectations, so I thought.  I was surprised at how easy it was for me to superimpose my ideas about who my date was.  Maybe this is a hold over from being married for so long.

I think that was a practice I developed with my former spouse.  He was/is a lovely man but quite the introvert, so I was in the habit of making up things about him.  He's sad...He must be mad... He likes being left alone... when in fact I don't think I really knew him that well at all (I agree I might be a bit too hard on myself here, but still...).

I don't think I'm unique in this peculiar habit of mine.  It's much easier to make up things in our own mind about others than it is to take the time to get to know them.

On the flip side it is easier to let people think what they want than to let them in and let them get to know you.

If you find yourself talking to me in the near future don't be surprised if I ask you, "Who are you?" because I really want to know.  I want to stop making assumptions and I want to find out who you are.

Maybe with a little practice I'll get better at letting you know who I am too.

Namaste'